I got a lesson in kindness from my wife today. She helped me dial down my inner lawyer and to not hold a grudge.

Dec 31, 2021 · 12:09 AM UTC

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We sold our house on December 7. We then leased it back from the buyer until we move.
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Yesterday a man knocked on our door and told my wife that he owned the house. Turns out he bought it from our buyers on the same day we sold it. We were, to say the least, confused, as this was the first we had heard about it.
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Today I received a text from the couple who originally bought our house. They said that a potential buyer wanted to come by and “see the lot”. I responded that we were confused, as a new buyer had already showed up at our door yesterday.
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They were, unsurprisingly, rather defensive. I felt inclined to pile on by pointing out that I had been in touch with the wife about landlord/tenant issues in the interim & that she had failed to let us know they were no longer our landlords.
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My wife talked me down. She felt we had made our point and there was nothing to be gained by going down the road.
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So I told them they were free to do what they wanted with the house after they bought it, that the new buyers seemed nice, & that it was just awkward when they showed up at our door claiming to own the house.
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They apologized. I told them everything was fine and wished them the best for the new year. They responded by offering to help us if we needed anything going forward.
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I come from a family that nurtured anger and harbored grudges, yet I strive to be kind in my encounters. Today I learned I have a pretty big blind spot. So this awkward encounter turned into a learning experience. I’m grateful that my wife’s graciousness is rubbing off on me.
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Replying to @HalMarshall2309
Well that’s a hard one & as a realtor I can understand your reaction.
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Replying to @HalMarshall2309
Well, that would have been a shock, to be sure. But much respect to your wife. It's good that you and she could communicate so well. Good luck with the rest of your tenancy and your move into your new home!
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Thanks, Patricia. We’re really excited about the new place. Yesterday I bought a SimpliSafe security system & Nest thermostat. Today we decided on window treatments. Here’s part of our new fence. I love the way it looks.
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