AITA for demanding my husband to replace all the books he threw away? bit.ly/3F4rn3x
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The ONLY book this woman needs to get is “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft. One of the best, if not THE best, books about abuse. Written by a man who works with abusers and really understands how they think.

Jan 7, 2022 · 6:22 PM UTC

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And Spoiler Alert: Abusers don’t think that they’re abusing? Why? Because you deserve it. Life is short, don’t waste one minute when you get a flag. Run.
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While it's entirely possible someone else wronged an angry &/or controlling bro-dude, they always take it out on people who have nothing to do with their fucked-up-ness. If you can get out safely, get out as soon as you can
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This. A difficult, terrifying read, but necessary one. For anyone in the UK, the Bright Sky app can be a helpful resource re. domestic abuse. All genders, 5 languages so far. hestia.org/brightsky
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If your funds are limited (financial abuse happens), archive.org has a copy you can virtually borrow here for free (an account there is also free) archive.org/details/whydoesh…
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Also a quick talk on financial abuse from Leah Hadley who teaches people divorcing from abusers & 'high conflict people' or personality disordered what financial abuse is & how to handle a divorce or separation from these highly toxic destructive people invidious.fdn.fr/watch?v=PdogNKc2…
Thank you for posting that. I'm looking it up for my daughter.
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I’m so glad. It really helped me end an abusive marriage. Once you understand how they think, and what is behind what they do, you get that there’s no hope for them changing. Anything by Patricia Evans is also good. There’s hope for your daughter. ❤️
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I think in the post it said that he felt neglected and ignored. in a healthy relationship, you would typically talk this through and get a compromise. the husband decided to go the extreme route instead of yk... being loving and hearing each other out :(